Many people don’t begin to explore the unseen aspects of life until someone they love has died. It is the most natural thing in the world to reach ourselves into the mystery when someone we love is no longer in our physical world. We’ve learned to trust what we can see, so we doubt ourselves when what we can’t see grabs us and makes us stop in our tracks. But that happens a lot after the death of a loved one. The thing is, the invisible world is much bigger than the world we can see. The energy that fuels our bodies in invisible. The air that we breathe is invisible. Gravity, the very thing that holds us to the earth, is invisible.
Embracing the mystery So what if the essence of those we’ve lost is still there, even if their physical presence is not? Or what if trying to discover the truth of that for ourselves is really where the journey through grief is meant to take us? We may not realize it, but understanding our own truth serves us as we all grow ever closer to the moment we will enter the invisible realm, ourselves. So much of what happens in our lives is driven by invisible things, like our emotions, our faith, our creative ideas, our sixth sense when something just isn’t right. And yet, when it comes to death, we hold back from acknowledging that what we can’t see might actually be happening. That our loved one is near, trying to communicate with us, sending their love from the new dimension in which they exist.
What do you believe? No one can tell you what to believe. I only hope you'll explore it for yourself. And why is that? Because life is bigger than we are, than our brains are, than our conditioned sense of reality is. When you reach out beyond the horizon of the seen world, your spirit has room to grow. And if your spirit can grow, what might that do for your life? It might bring you greater peace, or it might make you live your life a little differently, or it might help your invisible love reach out and hold the one you’ve lost.
“And now here is my secret, a very simple secret; it is only with the heart that one can see rightly, what is essential is invisible to the eye.”
Antoine de Saint-Exupery
If you need help finding your way to an ongoing connection with someone you've lost, pick up your pen and write to them. Then let them write back. This process has worked for so many people, and it can work for you, too.