Many people don’t begin to explore the unseen aspects of life until someone they love has died. It is the most natural thing in the world to reach ourselves into the mystery when someone we love is no longer in our physical world.
We’ve learned to trust what we can see, so we doubt ourselves when what we can’t see grabs us and makes us stop in our tracks. But that happens a lot after the death of a loved one.
The thing is, the invisible world is much bigger than the world
Something in the air changes. You feel it, even though you can’t prove it. There is just this sense that they are near. Invisible, but there.
What do you do in a moment like that?
I have worked with hundreds of people learning to process their grief through writing, and I can’t remember anyone who hasn’t experienced this. We all feel a little funny about it, because we question whether we simply want it so badly that we imagine it into being.
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When death comes for someone you can’t even imagine letting go of, it is a heartbreaking, soul-crushing experience. No one can prepare you for what you will feel. And what you feel might be so overwhelming and intense, that you do the natural thing - you put a barricade around yourself so no more pain can get in. The thing is, if pain can’t get in, neither can healing. Or love. Or the sweetness of memories. All those things that broke your heart also once gave you the greates
There is no more important time to know (or discover) what you really believe about life and death than when you’re struggling to come through the grief of losing someone important to you. The emotional loss is heartbreaking, and that is the part they refer to when they say that time heals all wounds. And they’re right - it really does. But your beliefs about life and death can either liberate you from grief or keep you stuck there. And when you don’t know what you believe, t
I met with two clients last week; both of them women in their late 50s who are in the final stages of cancer. Both are confined to bed. Both are grappling with the nearness of death. And each with a different perspective, but with a common theme that I found compelling. My job is to give people a creative way of processing what’s going on for them when we meet. The opening this gives them to express a personal truth is a gift they sometimes don’t get in any other way. Especia
People have been dying since the beginning of our time on earth. And even though we seem to finally be addressing this situation a little more openly these days, there is still a disconnect between what we’ve been taught about death and what we experience when it actually happens to someone we love. I don’t remember being taught that once someone dies there is no way to interact with them anymore, but that is definitely what I grew up believing. I think most people did. But i