The book + workshop
Reading the book
before taking the workshop
is a nice way to prepare
for the letter-writing journey
that lies ahead.
It can trigger insights
into your own experience,
while filling you with hope
that you will find peace
in sharing your feelings
with your loved one,
who is now in spirit.
Invisible Ink: The Journey Beyond Words
by Kathy Curtis
This book is an intimate glimpse into the final chapter of a loving mother-daughter relationship. Through letters written to her mother shortly after her death, Kathy Curtis captured only the crystalline moments between hearing the word ‘cancer’ for the first time, and the final, deafening silence that descended after the funeral, three months later.
Then a few years later, her mother wrote back.
Creating this two-way conversation helped the author deal with her painful memories, as well as write into being a peaceful space where she and her mother could connect. For the umpteenth time in her life, she was shown the healing force of the creative act, which opened her spirit and gave her profound new insights.
Writing letters to the loved one whose loss we grieve is powerful medicine. In time, it moves us beyond grief to a place of spiritual awe. Reading “Invisible Ink” is a how-to grief manual and a compelling love story, all in one. It is short enough for those whose ability to focus was stolen by their grief, yet long enough to convey the full emotional experience of an illness, a death and a liberating spiritual awakening.
Reactions to the book
"Invisible Ink" is the story of a mother's death from cancer, and a daughter's discovery that they could still communicate after her death. Filled with keen observations and heartfelt longings, "Invisible Ink" makes all those unexplainable things that happen after the death of a loved one seem perfectly normal.
Reading Kathy Curtis’ letters to her mother helped me get a clearer sense of knowing what I was experiencing in the early months after my father’s death. The letters from her mother transported me, and helped me believe that I can have the same ongoing connection with my dad’s spirit.
The letters from your Mom speak to the possibility, maybe the reality, of being able to experience sweet hellos across the seeming abyss that is the boundary between this life and the next, whatever that life is--and is to be for all of us.
E.J. Thomas, CEO, Habitat for Humanity, Greater Columbus
Kathy Curtis' experience with her Mother mirrors the reality I see every day, and will help ease the concerns and anxieties most people feel about dying. Invisible Ink will be invaluable to patients before they die, and to their caregivers, as well.
Dr. Warren Wheeler, Medical Director, Nathan Adelson Hospice, Las Vegas
I absolutely loved your book. As a person who has spent much of my life having the honor of caring for people moving from this world to the next, I identified so much with your explanation of the process. Your book was very comforting.
Beth Delamarter, RN, Founding Partner and Administrator, Prestige Care, Inc.
Invisible Ink: Writing Through Your Grief
by Kathy Curtis
This 9-week on-line course helps you safely express what's in your heart after the death of a cherished loved one. Through your own words, the path to healing your grief unfolds. With every letter you write, the peace you seek comes a little closer. As you pour your heart out on paper, the pain of your loss is transformed.
Combining insights about creativity and grief, audio-based guided meditations to help quiet your mind, and a specific topic each week to write to your loved one about, this workshop gives you a roadmap for putting words to - and thereby, healing - the pain of the loss you have suffered.
There are many aspects to grief. Some are shared by everyone. But many are unique to you and the relationship you've had with your loved one. Giving yourself the quiet time to understand your loss and express it to your loved one - even after their death - is like having them there to help you heal.
This program, which is sent directly to your home email address, guides you step-by-step through an important journey that began the minute you knew you had to face your loved one's death.
Reactions to the workshop
I highly recommend Kathy Curtis's 9-week course of dealing with grief. I have used it with my clients and it was very successful. The fact that it is online so that people can work on these letters on their own time is invaluable. I will definitely utilize this resource over and over again.
Linda Erwin-Gallagher, LMFT, CEAP, SAP
A friend of mine died in November from lung cancer. It was very sudden, and rocked my world. Your course 'writing through grief' has been a huge help to me, especially the lesson on IMAGINING WHAT YOUR LOVED ONE WANTS TO SAY. I just wrote - and it was exactly what I needed to hear, and sounded like it came from him...and not me. I really appreciate all of the lessons and look forward to ordering your book.
I found the course very helpful and surprising in some ways, in how it helped me realize what was already inside me, but needed help getting out, to be heard. My husband died over four years ago, so I have already gone through much of my grief and made good progress. But the part I was still dealing with, was moving forward in my life, my new life. I felt extremely sad that I would be leaving my husband behind and going on without him. One of the lessons helped me to see that I had been carrying my husband on my back or shoulders, causing all kinds of tension and stress (I am prone to headaches). Writing helped me to see that my husband is always with me in spirit, always in my heart, and there is no need to feel I have to carry him on my back. I can let him go, knowing he will be with me on my journey in the years ahead, always in my heart. That was a revelation to me, and very freeing. I imagined my husband smiling at me, saying "You finally got it!". :) The course directed me enough, especially with the meditations, to help me reach my inner self and find the learning I needed, to move on. Thank you so much!
Writing letters to my loved one to help heal my grief has been an amazing journey. When I first began this writing, my husband (best friend/soul mate) had recently passed. It still has not been a year. The range of emotions I have felt has been such a roller coaster. Rationally, I understand the reality, but emotionally and physically is another story. Writing letters to him has been painful yet liberating and healing. One of your lessons where we looked at how we hold our grief in our body was a great realization to me how heavy I was holding onto my grief and sadness. Just realizing that and breathing with your wonderful meditations led me to let go of some of the physical pain. Emotionally, the entire course opened doors and ways for me to sit with the sadness in my heart and write my heart out. Keeping our loved ones alive in thought and spirit through communicating with them has been a heart-felt healing journey for me. I still have a long way to go, but feel like I am facing my grief head on and allowing my loved one to remain in my heart always, as I continue this exercise of writing and remembering. Thank you.